Seeing the change in my dog is a helluva thing to watch. To see those 8 beautiful puppies, and their doting, formerly wild child mother, makes me smile. I can’t believe the dog lover I’ve turned into. It takes me back to when my kids, were tiny, and completely helpless, and wiggly and how I barely wanted to let them out of my sight. I see them now, trying to assert their independence, and turning into little grown ups. I am more than aware, of how quickly time flies and how much I want to impart to them, whilst their little minds are able to grasp, without active resistance due to external over exposure. As the bible said, ‘train up a child in the way he should grow, so then when he is older, he will not depart from it’….or something like that. 😀
Babies are not born with instructions or handbooks. Parents have to wing it as they go along, and create their own handbooks along the way. I want to train both of my children the same way. I will not give my son free reign and tie my daughter with a tight leash. My main aim is to make sure I put responsible, compassionate, and intelligent people out into society, to do nothing but contribute and make it better. If I was supposed to print out my personal parental advice handbook, to give them when they turn 16, it would look like this…
See complete list below within this post.
Love yourself first, but don’t ever be selfish,
putting blinders on to how your actions affect
Don’t always forgive and never forget. Small
damages happen to become a reminder, to prevent
bigger catastrophes from occurring.
Technology is your frenemy. It can be a vital tool
in your life, but your biggest downfall, if you
don’t use it wisely. Never do or say anything on
camera, or audio recording, leaving viable proof ,
that you are of questionable character, or are an
ass. Be nothing but the amazing person I know
you are capable of being, always. Be aware, that
it can live on beyond your earthly existence,
attaching itself to your legacy. What do you want
your legacy to be?
It’s ok to fall in love quickly, but never act on it
immediately. Explore your feelings thoroughly
before doing something that you cannot take
back. Love can turn to hate very quickly.
What you have between your legs is very special.
You are not a Coney Island ride. I am not expecting
you to be saints, but I expect that when you look
back on your past, that you smile fondly, not
shudder in regret, at the thought of knowing that
you physically joined yourself to an unworthy
piece of shit. Be no ones belt notch. Have more
standards than, ‘You must be this tall, or you must
have this much money to ride this ride’.
Be exclusive. You are special.
Don’t make a life or a child, with someone whose
family members are questionable. Even if that
person is not characteristically like their other
family members, if they have a somewhat close
relationship, they will meddle in your lives, and
usually not in a good way. Contrary to what folks
say, you do marry the family. Choose your partner
Don’t play fetch with your life. If people really want
to be with you, or around you, they will make the
effort. No need for ‘fetch and go get it’, dangling
yourself like a stick or a tasty treat in front of
them, to get them to notice you. You are not
Trust takes years to build, but only seconds to
demolish. Make sure that post destruction, the
relationship rubble and dust stays only between
who was directly involved. Respect what once
was, let it die and rot in piece.
Social media is the devil’s right hand. Use it.
Don’t let it use you.
Make sure you can differentiate between being
laughed with and being laughed at.
Do nothing to anyone that you would not like
being done to you.
Anything that comes too easy or at the expense
of others, will always flop somewhere down the
road. May be sooner, may be later.
Never broadcast or rub your good times or good
fortune in anyone’s face. Nobody likes a friggin’
show off. No need to hide your light, but don’t
shine it in anyone’s eyes. It may only encourage
them to plot your demise, or knock your boastful
ass, off of your high horse. On the flip side, nobody
likes a walking pity party. Do not invite people into
your sorrow. Most times they not really feeling
sorry for you, they’re just trying to figure out the
source of your misery aka (nosey) or want to
perpetuate it and keep you there.
Make sure anything you say about someone in their
absence , you can say directly to their face, and be
gangsta about it. J
‘Yeah I said it. And What Nicca!
Did I lie?’
Learn to really fight and be able to kick someone’s
ass. I mean be able to stomp the shit out of ‘em.
But be like a monk /ninja. A lover, not a lover of
fighting. Just take comfort in knowing you could kick
the dog piss out of ‘em, if they cross you.
Never let people know you are capable of it
though. They only need to know when your foot
comes in contact with their ass…. Which leads to the
next piece of parental advice..
Know when to STFU. Most things in your life are
nobody’s business. It’s not called being sly, it’s
called being private. Shut up more, listen more.
Unless your dreams involve some kind of sexually
deviant behavior, or murder, pursue it. I will
Respect and earn your money honourably. Never
chase it. It would be nice to earn off of your gifts
or talents, but if that cannot happen right away,
don’t turn your nose up at a respectable paying
job, because it doesn’t seem glamourous enough.
Save your money. Don’t be foolish with it, but
still take chances. If you lose it in pursuit of a good
cause, chalk it up to a lesson learned. Most
successful people have been bankrupt before they
were finally able to sustain it. Be financially
responsible, but don’t be a miser.
Believe in God, regardless of whatever science the
intellectuals come up with. Do not be a religious
fanatic, as organized religion can even be tied to
the devil. Be spiritual and open to the fact that
there is someone greater than you. Look at it
this way. If there is no God, even if you believed in
him and in having consequences to your actions, and
you lived a better life because of it, then you still
win. If you don’t believe in God, and you turn out
to be wrong and there is one, then you’re basically
Be a critical thinker, but don’t come off as a
condescending asshole, trying to diminish
someone else’s view, because you don’t share
their opinion. You don’t look or sound smarter,
you just appear to be a jerk.
As your mother who endured 10 months of
pregnancy, consistent vomiting throughout,
weekly, religious I V treatments due to severe
dehydration and weight loss, to grow you in
my body and keep you safe before you even
saw the light of day, I have and will always have
the right, as your hands on parent, to beat
you beyond recognition / identification, should
you chose to be, anything other than an
exemplary asset to society. I mean this shit!
Finally, Honour your father and your mother.